What is the deal with men who TALK INCESSANTLY and RAMBLE ON & ON & ON & ON and think that you actually want to hear the meaningless nonesense that they are bragging about??? Maybe they don't have bad intentions, but the arrogance that is pouring out of them is tremendously annoying. Lately, I feel like a lot of the guys that I have met or talked to lately just want to talk about themselves all day long and it's making me crazy.I have read in dating books or books about the communication styles of men and women that on a first date a lot of women walk away from the date thinking "What an arrogant jerk - all he did was talk about himself the entire time!" and the guy walked away thinking that she didn't have much to say. Apparently the 'real story' is that men feel that on a first date, they need to 'sell themselves' as if it's an advertisement for themselves or a job interview. But women take it as an arrogant, conceited jerk who isn't interested in anything but themselves. OK, fine - a misunderstanding because of the fact that men and women think/communicate differently. But after that initial "get to know you" phase, shouldn't that non-stop rambling wear off?!?!?!?
Anybody have an opinion on rambling men and why they constantly talk instead of asking questions once in a while?
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Oh RD, we talk about this all the time. I think some men are just nervous. I think this is an example where a double-standard works actually in our favor. Women are known to just "babble on" and people mark it up to nervous chatter. If men are nervous, it may come across as arrogance. Or maybe they are completely full of themselves. It is hard to know. They should come out with some kind of a device that can read that at a metaphysical level and let us know off the bat so we stop wasting our time.
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